To Fall in Love....

Forward: A practical view of love…

The whole concept of love is such a misty grey subject tainted with the silent cries for attention from the lonely and broken hearted, and repeatedly stereotyped by the masses as a feeling that we should all strive to seek out and grip onto at all costs. Is it considered a failure to pass over this feeling, whether through choice or misfortune. We have developed this ‘ability’ to fall in love; but the success of an individual’s existence should not be measured by their ability to find the special someone.  Love is not, and should not be treated as the Holy Grail, it is not necessary to spend years and a small fortune on dating sites and Lynx’s products. It is fine to be single……    

Love is simply an emotion that, in the right situation, can fill you’re every waking thought with warmth and comfort, whilst providing the proud title-holder of the emotion with a sense of direction and achievement. But it can also create an invisible boundary’s and walls, subjecting the prisoner to heinous acts of emotional cruelty which go unnoticed by outsiders.  My own personal experience with cupid has cast aside the rose tinted specs that once sat proudly on the bridge of my nose. My perception of an evil shape shifter (the ex obviously!) caused emotional damage to such a depth that I suffer night terrors and flashbacks to this day.  Love is not, and should not be the feeling of abandonment (in an ambulance with a flashing blue light I might add) nor is it feeling abused or bullied within your own castle. By allowing myself to be suckered into the lion’s den and beaten within an inch of conscious life, my escape has afforded me the priceless ability to see inner beauty within the people that I meet. The Holy Grail is sat on my fire place; my search never began but is over already.

One thing that must not be confused with ‘love’ is the debilitating emotional handicap of infatuation. This parasite worm’s its way inside your system like a computer virus until every inch of your body is filled with nothing but this person. Normal service is well and truly gone; your body simply becomes a stalking machine functioning only for one purpose. It’s an impossible vicious circle that only a back alley fumble with a hooker of epically trashy proportions can break. Let’s be honest here, the poor victim of your infatuation is hardly likely to be attracted your behavior – ‘‘Please stalk me some more, I enjoy having some weirdo watching my every move. It makes me feel so relaxed and comfortable in your presence’’! Its potential social suicide that a simple ‘who’s your best friend app’ on Facebook can highlight to the world, It’s not normal to check a person’s profile 20 times in an hour nor is it healthy to refuse help or admit your issue.

To be heartbroken is emotion that we will all suffer at one point in our measly lives but I promise that you’ll come through a stronger person for it. The stifling vice around your arteries and noose that you’re hanging from will eventually loosen, and that sweet smell of happiness will return when you least expect it.  The broken heart can be mended, patched up and sent on its way again, ready to embrace life and all that it has to offer.

One thing I think we can all agree on is that sometimes we have to let go, whether it’s a long distance relationship that hurts too much or an infatuation that can only lead to prison time; If you love somebody let them go. More importantly though, please remove the rose tinted glasses and realize this: Nothing is forever!!! I do not doubt the strength of your feelings at the moment, but things can change in the blink of an eye and the consequences can be devastating if you’re not emotionally prepared. The foundations of any love are inherently unstable and subject to hidden dangers (travelling, stress, that night out when things went a bit wrong …) so enjoy the time that you have together and make it count, and don’t ever go to bed angry! This delicate sensation that we describe as life should be cherished as a blessing and embraced because you’ll never get a second chance to relive your regrets.

Oh.. and you know that person your currently stalking? Leave them alone because you’ll only be disappointed….